5 Quick Tips to Become More Likeable

Ever wonder what draws you to certain people? Are they physically attractive, charismatic, easy to talk to? There are people in your personal and professional life that always seem to have people around them. You may even feel naturally inclined to want to go and talk to them and aren’t sure why. More likable people get better opportunities, are generally happier, and have an indirect influence on those around them. You may be thinking some people are just naturally more likable, indeed you are correct. Some genetic traits can be directly attributed to higher scores of charisma and likableness Unlike height, you don’t need to have specific genetic traits to be more likable. These five easy changes to your day to day life and interactions with people will make you more likable.

1. Smile and Be Positive

The adage misery loves company is not how you should approach your interactions with people. Not surprisingly, we enjoy being around other positive people. A small change to your daily mentality is all that is needed to change to a positive outlook. A good routine to practice each morning when you wake up before you check your phone and start your typical morning routine. Look in the mirror and say three positive things out loud. They can be as simple as “My dogs make me happy” or “today is going to be a good day”. Regardless of the size of the positivity, it changes your perspective and primes your attitude for the rest of the day.

2. Practice Active Listening

Active listening is not as simple as paying attention to a conversation. It refers to a set of skills used to deeply engage in a conversation and let your counterpart know you are locked in. The most important part of Active listening is to remove distractions and focus. Here are some quick ways to engage in active listening.

• Ask leading and specific questions — these are not as difficult as you would think to formulate. If your friend is talking about their favorite restaurant, a specific question is as simple as “What are your favorite appetizers?”
• Use verbal affirmation — responding with phrases like “I understand” and “That is funny” are easy ways to affirm your attention without interrupting
• Respond to body language — we communicate more with our eyes…